When Your Growth Makes Others Uncomfortable
The more you step into who you were always meant to be, authentic and aligned with your path and purpose, you may notice something: people around you can get uncomfortable.
As you grow, you start reflecting back things others haven’t faced in themselves yet.
“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” — Carl Jung
You might hear things like:
- “You’re too deep.”
- “Can’t we just have a normal conversation?”
- “You’ve changed. You’re not the person I used to know.”
- "It feels like you're attacking me."
- “So now you’re going to hold that against me?”
- “You’re making this into something it’s not.”
When you step fully into yourself, you shine a light that can make others feel exposed. Often, they’ll try to pull you back, to meet them at their version of “normal.” But that isn’t yours. It’s simply where they still feel safe.
It’s Not Superiority, It’s Alignment
This isn’t about being above anyone. That would come from ego, not authentic growth.
Everyone is exactly where they need to be in their own journey. The discomfort others feel when witnessing your transformation isn’t a reflection of their worth or yours. It’s what happens when old dynamics are challenged and new alignments are forming.
The Mirror Effect
When someone resists your growth, it often has little to do with you.
Their discomfort mirrors something they’re not ready to explore in themselves. That’s their choice to make, in their own timing.
Your growth doesn’t make you superior. It simply means you’re moving in a direction that may no longer align with where they are.
Why Some People Fall Away
As you grow, some relationships fall away like dead leaves off a tree.
It’s human to want the comfort of how things used to be. However, the real sadness isn’t that people leave. It’s when natural transitions turn bitter instead of being honoured for what they are: a recognition that you’re no longer aligned. All that’s perfectly okay.
Once You Awaken, There’s No Going Back
Maybe you’ve felt it too—the frustration of trying to swim in those shallow conversations, pretending everything’s fine when your soul craves depth.
For me, it always felt like banging my head against a wall. Shallow feels fake. Once you taste authenticity, there’s no going back.
Authenticity isn’t negotiable. It’s a torch you carry everywhere. To some, it may seem like you’ve changed or become “too much.” But the truth is, you’re simply done with pretending to be someone you're not.
That doesn’t mean others are wrong for staying where they are. Authenticity doesn’t make you superior; it just changes how you relate. And with that shift, relationships naturally evolve. Which is why creating space for everyone’s sacred timing becomes so important.
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Creating Space for Everyone’s Sacred Timing
Walking this path doesn’t mean others are wrong. It means accepting that some relationships will evolve or end as you grow, and holding compassion for both your journey and theirs, even when they respond with resistance or hostility.
That’s why we’re creating a space for people who are ready for their transformation. This isn’t a place for sugar-coating or comfort. It isn’t about selling programs or fostering co-dependency.
The aim isn’t to shield you from the fire of growth. It’s to walk with you through it, while honouring that everyone’s timing is different.
Sometimes the very things you’re holding tightly onto, the things you fight to protect, are the things that must be surrendered. When the old vessel shatters, a new one takes shape—strong enough to carry your expansion, yet steady enough to hold space for others.
Practical Strategies for Navigating Others’ Discomfort
- The Mirror Check
When someone criticises your growth, pause and ask: “What would the reverse of this comment reveal about them?”
→ Their words will reflect their inner world, and not your truth. - Boundary Setting Without Explanation
You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your growth.
Try: “I understand this feels different to you” instead of defending yourself. - Compassionate Detachment
Hold space for their discomfort without taking responsibility for fixing it.
Their resistance is their invitation to grow, not your problem to solve. - Energy Protection
Limit time in conversations that drain your authenticity.
Notice when you’re dimming yourself, and choose not to. - The Alignment Test
Ask: “Does this relationship support who I’m becoming or who I used to be?”
Honour the answer without guilt. - Stay Grounded in Your Truth
Develop daily practices that reconnect you to your authentic self.
Don’t let others’ comfort dictate your pace. - The Soft Exit
When relationships no longer serve, leave with love instead of burning bridges.
Sometimes distance is the most loving choice for all involved.
“Each time you step into your authenticity, it sends an unseen, sacred clarion call for others to step up into theirs.” — Lisa Precious
Written by Lisa Precious
🤲 An Invitation
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Some questions may be explored (anonymously) in future letters, especially if they carry something universal others might need too.
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