The Ones Who Show Up When It’s Easy

Some people will be present with you when it’s convenient, but unreachable when it counts. This is for the ones who give fully, love deeply, and are finally choosing to stop waiting for reciprocity.

The Weight of Uneven Presence

Lately, I’ve been thinking about presence—and how often people enjoy mine when it’s available to them, but rarely reciprocate it when I’m the one reaching out.

I have friends who are great when I’m with them. They’re warm, attentive, and engaged. But when I’m not physically there, their communication becomes sporadic. Days pass. Weeks. Sometimes, silence.

How I Show Up

I respond to nearly everyone almost immediately—even with everything I have going on -that’s my baseline. No matter what I’m carrying, I show up. I return calls. I answer texts. I care—deeply and consistently.

This goes beyond staying “on my phone.” It reflects who I prioritize.

When I ask someone, “Have you talked to so-and-so?” and they reply, “Oh yeah, we talk all the time,” I notice where I stand in their world.

No More Excuses

I understand people are different. Life gets busy. Energy shifts.

But I’ve stopped making space for people who won’t make space for me.

Even in the Storm

Even in my darkest moments when I was going through hell I still answered the call. Still responded. Still cared. No job, no breakup, no crisis ever stopped me if I could help it.

That’s who I am.

For a long time, I made excuses for others. Told myself they were overwhelmed or didn’t know how to show up. I extended grace without limit.

Then one day, I stopped.

The Truth About Energy

Reciprocity matters. Being empathetic doesn’t mean pouring endlessly into people who barely hold a cup out. Caring doesn’t require self-abandonment.

Letting Go with Love

I’ve been clear—with myself and others. I’ve named what I need. I’ve explained what I can no longer accept.

When someone didn’t meet me there—or chose not to—I let go. It wasn’t out of feeling resentment, but it came from alignment.

To the ones I no longer respond to: it isn’t spite. It’s self-respect. I warned you. I loved you. I gave chances. The final hour passed. And this time, I meant it.

Choosing Peace Over Patterns

Choosing myself doesn’t mean I'm rebelling, I’m returning.. I don’t demand that anyone has to match the way I love—but I no longer offer continued access when they’ve shown me where I stand.

If You Feel This, You’re Not Alone

You’re not too sensitive or too much. You’re just done shrinking yourself to stay connected.

Awareness paired with action is what changes everything.

Four Signs It’s Time to Let Go

1. You're Always Initiating—and Rarely Receiving

When you're the one consistently reaching out, responding quickly, and showing up emotionally—while others remain distant or unresponsive—it reveals an imbalance that can't sustain real connection.

2. You’ve Communicated Your Needs—and Nothing Changes

You’ve clearly expressed what you value and what you need. If someone chooses not to meet you there, or repeatedly ignores that clarity, it shows they’re not willing to grow with you.

3. You Keep Making Up Excuses for Their Absence

When you find yourself constantly rationalising their silence or lack of effort—telling yourself they’re just busy —it’s often a sign you’re carrying the entire relationship on your own.

4. You No Longer Feel Resentful—Just Done

When you’re no longer angry, but simply ready to move on, that’s your signal.

Written by Silo Rhodes - With warmth and deep gratitude, Smiley Blue honours the voice of Silo Rhodes.