Learn to view rejection as a tool for self improvement and personal growth.

Nobody enjoys receiving an ice-cold cup of rejection; initially, it hurts as we feel that sickly stab of pain in our hearts and stomachs. We feel misunderstood and discarded like a piece of rubbish on the floor. OUCH!

“I am good at walking away. Rejection teaches you how to reject.” ‌‌― Jeanette Winterson

Learn to look to the light when experiencing the pain of rejection. When viewed in a positive light, rejection is always propelling us to a higher purpose.

Our clever minds are naturally wired to seek a comfortable solution to our painful circumstances in order to process the hurt.‌‌

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Don’t Project Blame

Often, to feel more at ease with ourselves, we blame the rejection on the other party, to avoid the uncomfortable reality of looking at ourselves in the mirror. Yet, by avoiding taking any self-responsibility, we miss the valuable lesson given to us in the rejection. When we make rejection our ally, we can learn to use it as a tool for heightened strength, growth, and resilience.

By taking full responsibility for rejection, we can seek new ways for self-improvement, or try unexplored avenues we haven't discovered before.‌‌Naturally, pain and grief associated with rejection is something we all have to experience and work through at some point in our lives.

I take rejection as someone blowing a bugle in my ear to wake me up and get going, rather than retreat- Sylvester Stallone

Allow For The Sadness

Just as we would train our bodies gradually for running a marathon, we can train our minds gradually each day by creating the time to process our sadness and grief. There is no fast route around healing other than allowing yourself the space and time to grieve naturally.‌‌ In time, through multiple experiences of rejection, we learn to see that it was propelling us higher toward our life purpose.

4 Ways Rejection Serves Your Growth

  1. Propelling towards a Higher Purpose: Rejection, when viewed in positive light, propels individuals towards a higher purpose in life, encouraging growth and self-development.
  2. Opportunity for Self-Improvement: Rejection serves as an opportunity to take full responsibility for ourselves and seek ways to improve, encouraging personal growth and resilience.
  3. Encourages Seeking New Avenues: Rejection motivates individuals to explore new paths, friendships, and avenues they may not have considered before, leading to further potential opportunities for success and fulfillment.
  4. Enhances Emotional Resilience: Working and healing through the pain and grief associated with rejection gradually enhances emotional resilience, helping to navigate future rejection with greater strength and fortitude.


“Over the years, I have come to realize that the greatest trap in our life is not success, popularity, or power, but self-rejection. Success, popularity, and power can indeed present a great temptation, but their seductive quality often comes from the way they are part of the much larger temptation to self-rejection. When we have come to believe in the voices that call us worthless and unlovable, then success, popularity, and power are easily perceived as attractive solutions. The real trap, however, is self-rejection. As soon as someone accuses me or criticizes me, as soon as I am rejected, left alone, or abandoned, I find myself thinking, "Well, that proves once again that I am a nobody." ... [My dark side says,] I am no good... I deserve to be pushed aside, forgotten, rejected, and abandoned. Self-rejection is the greatest enemy of the spiritual life because it contradicts the sacred voice that calls us the "Beloved." Being the Beloved constitutes the core truth of our existence” - Henry J.M Nouwen

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